>> January 30, 2020
>> Blog Post #21
If you have children, do you often hear yourself, saying “no”, or “don’t do this”, or “don’t do that” or anything else that is simultaneously an order and acts as a definitive stop you should not or cannot cross? Would you consider it liberating for your kids? Look at those three examples above. Do you see a single one that is not a negative interjection?
The answer is no.
Do you feel like these types of sentences are used every day?
If you do, chances are you are probably right. If not, consider these below. Advice, rules commonly accepted as being educational or just expected behavior (and no, you are not supposed to, nor is it helpful, to hit anyone else).
- don’t cross the road before looking if there’s a car
- don’t pick your nose
- don’t leave the light on in your room
- don’t hit your brother / sister
These are innocent enough. But think about how many times you’ve uttered them.
Now that hopefully you are convinced just how banal they are it is time to realize that you, were once that child and were the recipient of all these orders year after year after year. Worse, try to evaluate whether such sentences are still thrown at you on a regular, even daily basis.
We are raised to obey, conform and not encouraged to look for alternatives.
baa baa baa baa (bleating sound)
Choosing to disobey, rebel, feels transgressive. But it also feels right at the same time when you know that some rules are wrong. Please share with me examples of such rules in laws, traditions, personal or professional habits if you can think of any. We’ll explore them throughout the year.